Wishing vs. Wanting: Coaches’ Corner w/ Jason Haynes

Today’s post is our latest installment of a new series called the “Coaches Corner.”  Our Adonis Transformation Coaches will share their knowledge, experience, and best practices to help ensure your successful transformation.  To continue the series, our topic  comes from none other than Adonis Legend and AGR Pioneer, Jason Haynes.

Take note on what he has to say about the difference between…

 

Wishing vs. Wanting

Wishing” is a desire to have that outstanding physique, but without the effort, sacrifice, and discipline.  It’s kind of like a “It would be nice if” kind of thing…like if a genie “zapped” them with a great physique, then it would be great, but they would not do the work and effort involved to achieve that wish.

“Wishing” is a desire to have that outstanding physique, but without the effort, sacrifice, and discipline. It’s kind of like a “It would be nice if” kind of thing…like if a genie “zapped” them with a great physique, then it would be great, but they would not do the work and effort involved to achieve that wish.

 

The words “want” and “wish,” unfortunately, are used interchangeably these days.  Now, perhaps this is not a new phenomenon and it may well have been true for generations or even millennia prior to this amazing “new” discovery by yours truly, but that does not negate the fact that it’s true.  Truth be told, I’ve often said this many times but this is the first time that I can remember that I have written about it, although I am quite certain that I am not the first nor will I be the last.

See, these two terms are quite different, although they have some similarities.  Now, for those of you reading who get technical and instantly think of all the different definitions of these words and their uses depending on their function in the sentence and what-not…don’t.  Just hear the core issue of what I am saying here.

 

Now, both terms show desire for something…”I want to get a great physique” and “I wish I had a great physique.”  Both have an object for their desire:  a great physique.  Yet…there is the difference between the two phrases.

“Wanting” is when someone is willing to put the sweat…the effort…the sacrifice…the discipline…into the endeavor to achieve a great physique.  These men and women know what they desire and put in the hard work to achieve it.  They want something and go for it, not making excuses for not doing it.  It takes sacrifice…and pain.  Certainly there is sweat and some days of disappointment…but they want it, so they push onward with discipline and determination.  Some may call them “in-human” or even “machines,” but darn it, they get it done and reap the rewards for their labors!  They do what needs to be done.

Period.

Now, “Wishing” is a desire to have that outstanding physique, but without the effort, sacrifice, and discipline.  It’s kind of like a “It would be nice if” kind of thing…like if a genie “zapped” them with a great physique, then it would be great, but they would not do the work and effort involved to achieve that wish.

These folk like to daydream about having a great physique…perhaps squish their fat or skin together at their abdomen to see what a 6-pack looks like in a mirror…then smiles with satisfaction (as if it was true) and returns to whatever they were doing before.  Excuses abound and nothing is ever achieved.

I am convinced that a lot of guys out there say they “want” an outstanding physique when, in fact, it is merely a wish.   Oh sure, they say that they “want” one, but without putting in the work, it is merely a wish confused for a want.

 

See where I’m going with this?

As another example (not training related), a good friend of mine (guys who read my blogs on the AI Forum should get an idea of who this is from one or two of my very very old blogs) said he wanted to learn Chinese.  The man who was talking with him, who was very fluent in the language by the way, asked him “So what are you doing to learn it?”  He had no answer…he had taken ZERO steps to learn the language, to which the man he was speaking to said “So, you really don’t want it, do you?  You are only wishing for it.”

And he is 100% right!

Get it?  If you’re not actually taking steps toward a goal, it is not WANTING it…it is merely WISHING for it.  Wanting requires a plan, hard work, dedication, discipline, and consistency…notice that all these words require ACTION!   Put these things together, and your WANT will become true for most things…but especially for a healthier, better looking physique which can be accomplished by anyone who puts the work in.

John Barban has done the actual work of planning into the Adonis Golden Ratio program with information and tools for anyone who puts in the honest effort to achieve a great physique.  A free forum (Adonis Community) is provided where like-minded men truly help and encourage one another to achieve their goals.

The team at AGR has even provided access to personal coaches who eat, sleep, and live this lifestyle every day and have done so for YEARS, to help you achieve your perfect physique!  They have each undergone their own transformations and can help you to undergo yours and come out victorious.

In short, AGR is the complete package to get you to where you want to be.

However, even with all these things in place, it is still up to YOU to make the efforts to discipline yourself and put in the effort.

YOU are the one who has to get to the gym in all kinds of weather and all kinds of situations…

YOU are the one who has to take control of your nutrition.

YOU are the one who has to discipline yourself and push yourself in the gym.
We have a great deal of resources for you at AGR…but ultimately the fact is:  You get out of it what effort you put into it.  AGR makes it as simple as possible, but you are the one who has to do all the work from here.

Do you wish for a great physique?

Or do you WANT one?

Decide and act accordingly.

 

Until next time,

Train Hard.  Train Smart.

Jason

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

ADONIS ORIGINS: Jason Haynes | Circa 2009-2010

ADONIS ORIGINS: Jason Haynes | Circa 2009-2010

Jason Haynes is one of the oldest members of the AGR community and has been around since he participated in the first and second AGR Transformation Competitions, of which he placed second and first, respectively.  Having found a system that he is confident in and that works, he has faithfully stuck by it ever since.  Now in his 40’s, Jason enjoys living the life of maintaining his physique easily and with little effort, thanks to the AGR system and tools provided.  He is also a coach in the Adonis Premiere Coaching program and desires to help anyone to achieve their fitness goals.

 

ADONIS LEGEND: Jason Haynes: May 2014

ADONIS LEGEND: Jason Haynes: May 2014

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